EASY WAYS TO AVOID FALLING IN LOVE(PART1)

This blog prides itself in managing people mostly in the workplace, however, i am doing something on the other side this week. My very good friend, Michael Oladiran is my guest writer this week, he write on LOVE. Enjoy.
13 EASY WAYS TO AVOID FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE YOU MAY NOT MARRY
Find yourself falling uncontrollably in love with the wrong person? When you start to like someone, you don’t actually fall in love with them instantly.
The feeling you experience is infatuation.



Oladiran Michael: Guest Writer of the week
And infatuation, as much as it feels like an inescapable wall that blocks your view from everything else including the bad habits, will eventually fade.
Most of us who have a crush on someone end up falling more in love with each passing day, not because we’re so helplessly drawn towards that person, but because we voluntarily choose to let that person sink their hooks deeper into our heart.
Falling in love and its confusions
Sometimes, it’s easy to be confused. A friend or a coworker could be charming and sweet, and before you know it, you may be having an emotional affair with them, or worse, falling head over heels in love with them even though every molecule in your body could be screaming out that you’re going down the wrong path.
And then you try to stop yourself, but each time you try, it only hurts you more. And finally, you choose to give up fighting, and wallow in self pity and misery because you’re in love with someone who’s just so wrong for you, or someone who may never ever love you back the way you love them.
But the truth is, you’re still the one who’s in control of your own life and your own heart. You can choose to walk away from love instead of falling deep in it if you truly choose to.
STEP ONE: IS IT SUCH A BAD IDEA TO FALL IN LOVE/WHAT'S YOUR STAND?
So you’ve made up your mind that falling in love with a particular person, be it a friend or a colleague, is a bad idea.
But what’s your real motive behind walking away. If you want to get over someone and have their hooks loosened from your heart, you need to be very clear about why you choose to let go.
Weigh the pros and the cons. Do you think a long term relationship is impossible? Is there something about this person that just isn’t acceptable by you? Are they dating someone else, or perhaps, already married with kids?
If you want to avoid falling in love with someone, or want to stop loving someone, you need to be very clear about the reasons behind why you’re doing it.
STEP TWO: ACCEPTING YOUR REASON
You can stop loving someone or avoid falling in love with someone only when you truly accept your reasoning behind why you can’t ever see a future with this particular person. You have to remember that there are no two ways here, and there should be no space for doubt.
If you want to stop falling in love with someone, you can’t ever do it unless you make up your mind that it is what you want.
You can choose to control your emotions to a certain extent, at least until your mind realizes just what a bad idea falling in love with this person could turn out to be. But you can’t do any of that unless you accept and believe the idea that you don’t want to stay in love with this person.
STEP THREE: DIGGING YOUR OWN DITCH AND SERVING IT ON EMOTIONAL PLATES
You’ve decided to move on, haven’t you? So why do you spend half your day dreaming about this person or wondering what they may be doing right this moment? Remember, the more you think of someone, the more they start to feel like a bigger and inescapable part of your life. Each time this person flits through your thoughts, push them away. Shake your head, distract yourself and think about something else or someone else. It may seem hard for a few days or a week or so. But very soon, you’d find it really easy to just block this person out of your head!
13 TIPS TO STOP YOURSELF FROM FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE
If you’re having a hard time stopping yourself from falling more madly in love with this person, here are 13 tips you can use to prevent yourself from falling further in love with them. And within a couple of weeks of following these tips, you’d be strong enough to pull your thoughts together and walk away from them for good.
ONE--DISTRACT YOURSELF.
Don’t let this person control your mind. As difficult as it may seem to stop thinking of this person, it’s definitely doable. Keep yourself distracted with new activities that need your attention. And each time you feel lonely or idle, think about something else that makes you happy. Playing games or Reading can also work for you.
TWO--DON'T BE A STALKER.
As satisfying as it feels to stay updated on this person’s private life, avoid opening their facebook page every one hour to see if they’ve been up to something. The more you obsess over this person, the bigger the part they’ll play in your life. Try to limit the number of times you stalk them on social media every day, so that eventually you can start to completely ignore them.